Tuesday, 9 June 2009

Disappointing- but not surprising

One of my colleagues was castigated in a  (semi-) public manner by our Archbishop for allegedly saying prayers with a gay couple for their relationship. This apparently had some report in the press, though I have not been able to track it down.
The subsequent castigation came in the form of a letter to the clergy by Archbishop Driver in which he told us what had happened. The priest was told to not do this again.
In his defence said priest had told the Archbishop a number of important things: 
  • that this was a private occasion, 
  • that the service was not and did not purport to be a wedding
  • that he had (in his discussion with the couple concerned) made it plain that this would not be conducting a wedding.
I feel personally saddened by this. I am on record elsewhere as saying that we should be doing what we can to encourage and strengthen commitment, meaning and love in relationships. I would have thought that a principle way we do this is by saying prayers and encouraging others to join in those prayers.
Would it not be appropriate, for example, for my friend P and I to give thanks to God for our friendship over 35 years and to pray for God's continuing blessing on us? (We are not in a gay relationship...but we are both male)

2 comments:

Kordos said...

In these situations it is always interesting because I bet if their sexuality was not known then no one would care. Sometimes I wonder if the 'church' (all christian faiths) actually think about why people are turning away from religion

stephen clark said...

I think there is an elemnt of truth in that, and that some (often those in power) have little idea of what the wider community really think of us